6 Essentials To Adulting After High School

If you are about to leave high school or you’ve already graduated, you need to get these six essential items, as they are critical to ‘adulting’. This is the number one channel for tons of great life skills information and advice. Here you will find life hacks and tips that will get you ahead. If this is your first time, thanks for dropping by.

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Feeling Frustrated? How To Stand Up For What You Need At Work

When my client Margaret called me, she was in a state of total frustration.

She was a hard working, positive-minded, let’s-get-it-done kind of employee, and had never had performance issues in her career. But after long-term success in a job she loved, she’d just been assigned a new manager who was unlike any other: He gave her the silent treatment, iced her out of conversations, and, overall, was a bit of a bully.

As a result, Margaret, a positively positive and highly effective employee, had turned into a rattled bunch of nerves. She dreaded every interaction with this manager, fearing that in sheer frustration, she’d eventually blurt out “I quit!” without having any kind of backup plan. She wanted to make it work—it was a great job with a wonderful community of colleagues—but she had no idea how she could.

Perhaps, like Margaret, you’ve thought that if you put your nose to the grindstone, do good work, and have a can-do attitude, your career will be smooth sailing. The problem is, many other factors have an impact on your career, too—including the people around you and your relationships with them. And when those people turn into stonewall managers and abrasive colleagues, you’ll need more than a good work ethic and positive attitude to effectively deal with them.

Read More – Forbes

Stress

This is what goes on inside the body when we are chronically stressed:

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Our hard-wired stress response is designed to gives us the quick burst of heightened alertness and energy needed to perform our best. But stress isn’t all good. When activated too long or too often, stress can damage virtually every part of our body. Sharon Horesh Bergquist gives us a look at what goes on inside our body when we are chronically stressed.

Lesson by Sharon Horesh Bergquist, animation by Adriatic Animation.

How I Manage Going Back to School and Being A Full Time Worker

 | Marketing and Sales Coordinator at Triella Technology Transformations

Despite all of my current responsibilities, I recently made the decision to go back to school. I wanted to strengthen my knowledge of sales and marketing and so I have been attended night classes at Ryerson University in Toronto.  It’s not easy going back to school and having a full time job, here are some tips on how I have managed to have a full time job and attend school.

Time Management Is Key!

I cannot stress this enough.  This is probably the most important tip I can think of.  If you are working and going to school at the same time you must make sure to manage your time.  Unlike the days when you were a full time student with no job or a full time worker no longer in school, juggling both at the same time can be daunting but doable.  The most important thing to keep in mind is that you have responsibilities to the people at work and at school and that you uphold those responsibilities.

One of the things that I have found the most helpful is create a monthly schedule.  By planning out all of the tasks and activities to be done for work and school, I can se what needs to get done when.  That way I manage to keep up with my responsibilities and be reliable without falling behind.  While sometimes staying on schedule can be difficult, let’s face it, sometimes unexpected things come up, by trying to effectively manage your time you will be able to get a lot more done.

Do Not Take On Too Much

While some might think that trying to go to school and work at the same time means the ship has sailed in terms of taking on too much, well I guess it’s a matter of opinion.  What I mean when I say “Don’t Take On Too Much” is you have to be aware what you can handle and what you cannot.  You do not want the stress of school and work to burn you out where you will be no good at either.  Before deciding to re-enter school- while working a full time job it is important to take a step back and see if you are able to handle all the excess work that will come your way.

When I decided to re-enter school I decided it would be through Continuing Education.  By choosing this route the classes are a bit more accommodating to full time workers and the workload isn’t too bad.  I also decided to take only one course a semester.  Unlike my previous undergraduate experience a few years ago, I knew that school could not take up as much space in my life as it once did. By taking one class a semester it helped balance the workload between my job.

Study A Subject That Interests You

If you are going to make the decision to go back to school, make sure you choose a subject that interests you.  Whether or not it is to update your knowledge of your current job field or to prepare for a transition into a new field, it is important to enroll in classes that interest you.  School does not go down so well if the student dislikes the topics or fields of study.  Being able to balance school and work is a little easier if you enjoy them.

Case in point, I decided to enroll in some marketing and sales courses in order to strengthen my knowledge of the field.  I am hoping that this knowledge will allow me to perform better at my job and obtain a greater understanding of the important of sales and marketing in my company.  So far, I am thoroughly enjoying learning more about sales and marketing as it has been a field that I have enjoyed for quite some time.  Also, while holding a marketing and sales position in the workforce it has allowed me to see the real-world applications of the theories and studies discussed in the classroom much better.

Juggling school and work is a lot.  It takes hard work and dedication in order to succeed at both.  My decision to take on school again was fuelled by my desire to improve and advance myself in my job,  This mutually beneficial relationship allows me to learn more about sales and marketing while also bettering my job performance.  So for those of you thinking about stepping foot in a classroom again while working a full time job, make sure you manage your time, take on what you can handle, and study what you love.

Source (LinkedIn)

I wish you luck!

How (And Why) To Become A Fabulous Listener

Coauthor Emotional Intelligence 2.0 & President at TalentSmart


Listening is a bit like intelligence—most everyone thinks they’re above average, even though that’s impossible.

And listening is a skill you want to be great at. A recent study conducted at George Washington University showed that listening can influence up to 40% of a leader’s job performance.

“The word listen contains the same letters as the word silent.” –Alfred Brendel

There’s so much talking happening at work that opportunities to listen well abound. We talk to provide feedback, explain instructions, and communicate deadlines. Beyond the spoken words, there’s invaluable information to be deciphered through tone of voice, body language, and what isn’t said.

In other words, failing to keep your ears (and eyes) open could leave you out of the game.

Most people believe that their listening skills are where they need to be, even though they aren’t. A study at Wright State University surveyed more than 8,000 people from different verticals, and almost all rated themselves as listening as well as or better than their co-workers. We know intuitively that many of them are wrong.

Effective listening is something that can absolutely be learned and mastered. Even if you find attentive listening difficult and, in certain situations, boring or unpleasant, that doesn’t mean you can’t do it. You just have to know what to work on. The straightforward strategies that follow will get you there.

Focus. The biggest mistake most people make when it comes to listening is they’re so focused on what they’re going to say next or how what the other person is saying is going to affect them that they fail to hear what’s being said. The words come through loud and clear, but the meaning is lost. Focusing may seem like a simple suggestion, but it’s not as easy as it sounds. Your thoughts can be incredibly distracting.

Put away your phone. It’s impossible to listen well and monitor your phone at the same time. Nothing turns people off like a mid-conversation text message or even a quick glance at your phone. When you commit to a conversation, focus all your energy on the conversation. You will find that conversations are more enjoyable and effective when you immerse yourself in them.

Ask good questions. People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows not only that you are listening but that you also care about what they’re saying. You’ll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking good questions. In addition to verifying what you’ve heard, you should ask questions that seek more information. Examples of probing questions are “What happened next?” and “Why did he say that?” The key is to make certain that your questions really do add to your understanding of the speaker’s words, rather than deflecting the conversation to a different topic.

Practice reflective listening. Psychologist Carl Rogers used the term “reflective listening” to describe the listening strategy of paraphrasing the meaning of what’s being said in order to make certain you’ve interpreted the speaker’s words correctly. By doing this, you give the speaker the opportunity to clarify what she meant to say. When you practice reflective listening, don’t simply repeat the speaker’s words to her. Use your own words to show that you’ve absorbed the information.

Use positive body language. Becoming cognizant of your gestures, expressions, and tone of voice (and making certain they’re positive) will draw people to you like ants to a picnic. Using an enthusiastic tone, uncrossing your arms, maintaining eye contact, and leaning towards the speaker are all forms of positive body language employed by great listeners. Positive body language can make all the difference in a conversation.

Don’t pass judgment. If you want to be a good listener, you must be open-minded. Being open-minded makes you approachable and interesting to others. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is not willing to listen. Having an open mind is crucial in the workplace, where approachability means access to new ideas and help. To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other people’s eyes. This doesn’t require that you believe what they believe or condone their behavior; it simply means that you quit passing judgment long enough to truly understand what they are saying.

Keep your mouth shut. If you’re not checking for understanding or asking a probing question, you shouldn’t be talking. Not only does thinking about what you’re going to say next take your attention away from the speaker, hijacking the conversation shows that you think you have something more important to say. This means that you shouldn’t jump in with solutions to the speaker’s problems. It’s human nature to want to help people, especially when it’s someone you care about, but what a lot of us don’t realize is that when we jump in with advice or a solution, we’re shutting the other person down. It’s essentially a more socially acceptable way of saying, “Okay, I’ve got it. You can stop now!” The effect is the same.

Bringing It All Together

Life is busy, and it seems to whirl by faster every day. We all try to do a million things at once, and sometimes it works out. But active, effective listening isn’t something you can do on the fly. It requires a conscious effort.

How do you know when someone is really listening to you? How would you rate your listening skills? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Dr. Travis Bradberry is the award-winning co-author of the #1 bestselling book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, and the cofounder of TalentSmart, the world’s leading provider of emotional intelligence tests and training, serving more than 75% of Fortune 500 companies. His bestselling books have been translated into 25 languages and are available in more than 150 countries. Dr. Bradberry has written for, or been covered by, Newsweek, BusinessWeek, Fortune, Forbes, Fast Company, Inc., USA Today, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The Harvard Business Review.

Source (LinkedIn)

Adult coloring books reduce stress, strengthens relationships

Coloring sheets for adults go beyond flowers and ponies. Most involve intricate designs and patterns such as this fabulous feline. Photo courtesy of Chrissy Carr

Kids, prepare to share your crayons because grown-ups like to color, too.

Whether it’s for artists-at-heart, those looking to relieve stress or simply individuals who enjoy creating, the adult coloring craze is, well, getting colorful.

Coloring books are flying out of publishing houses, landing at the top of best-sellers’ lists and inspiring classes, workshops, parties and even book club-like groups to form, designed for those who want to stay both inside and outside the lines.

“I love to color. I find it extremely meditative and relaxing. Sometimes I start my day with a cup of coffee and a coloring book, and sometimes I end my day with a glass of wine and a coloring book,” said Erika Lopez, with a chuckle.

And now her 95-year-old mother wants to give it a try.

Lopez and her daughter Anna Lopez have included the fun into their business as well. They host twice monthly painting and wine classes at their Boulevard 34 gift shop/creative space in Glendale. Lynette Rozine Prock, author of the book “Mandala Meditation,” which is used for drawing and painting, is the instructor.

One of the hottest coloring titles this year has been Los Angeles-based Souris Hong’s New York Times best-seller “Outside The Lines,” which actually hit shelves in 2013 and was published under the name Souris Hong-Porretta. Hong has since followed it up with the recent debut of “Outside The Lines, Too.” She curated both Penguin Random House works that feature work from 100 animators, cartoonists, musicians and street artists.

“I’m an advocate of anyone who likes thinking outside the box, who likes to do things differently and think differently,” said Hong, who plans to have an Oct. 3 book signing at the Museum of Contemporary Art in downtown Los Angeles.

As part of the fun, Hong hopes to have materials set up encouraging visitors to go wild. When Hong did a similar event for the first book, more than 1,000 people showed up.

“Museums used to always be don’t-touch places. For this event, yes, you can color on the walls,” she said.

A portion of Hong’s coloring book sales will be donated to the museum’s education fund.

“Most of us grew up coloring, but this last generation has grown up with computer screens in front of them. It’s a nice reprieve from all the iPads and tablets. You actually hold something in your hands and create,” Hong said. “I enjoy the creativity, the colors that reflect your mood and are an expression of ourselves. There is no right or wrong.”

And you’re never too old to color, said Ileene Parker, executive director of the Sherman Oaks East Valley Adult Center.

”Some of us closet colorers have been doing this all our lives,” Parker said.

Volunteer Ardeth Hurvitz gets the credit for urging Parker to start weekly coloring sessions at the center every Wednesday, and they’re a huge hit.

“We’re always trying to come up with activities to engage seniors in hobbies. This is perfect. It’s low cost — at our sessions we provide everything — and you can do it anywhere,” Parker said.

Research shows coloring is relaxing, can lower a person’s blood pressure and is a great way to keep your mind stimulated.

“People who come share and talk. Even though we provide coloring sheets, you still have to be a bit of an artist. You create. You decide what colors to use, where to shade. It’s a great brain activity for any age,” Parker said.

Fern Decena of Santa Monica, who recently created a coloring book club, agrees.

“Coloring helps me focus, stimulates my creativity, and I find it enjoyable,” Decena said. “Plus, it’s a way to gather my girlfriends and spend some quality time with them all.”

Coloring can also strengthen intergenerational relationships. For instance, Parker and her 44-year-old daughter enjoy coloring together.

“It’s fun and brings back memories of when she was a little girl,” she said.

Source: (Daily News)

Survive job rejection

YOU have been praying for that big break and you finally get the call for an interview. Two days after what you consider was a great interview, you get the call, but not the answer you were anticipating. A job rejection is something that nobody wishes to experience, but it happens. The sooner you get over the disappoinment, the sooner you’ll be on the way to finding the best post for you.

1. Be confident and open-minded

You are brilliant, and you graduated top of your class, and while confidence is important, always leave room for the possibility that things don’t always work out the way we want them to. If you decide to claim a job that was never given to you, it becomes more likely that you will become depressed when you are rejected.

2. Don’t beat yourself up

A rejection can impact your confidence severely, but it’s not healthy to torture yourself. Instead, think of yourself at point zero and use this opportunity to assess yourself by revisiting and building on core values. Consider your tone, language, dress and all the other factors while creating the positive energy you need to prepare for your other interviews.

3. Take away something positive

Despite the outcome, you must have learned something from the interview. If you executed it well, it may very well be that the recruiters were hoping for something different, and it may not have necessarily been that you failed at the interview. Use the interview experience as a tool to build a wall of resilience.

4. Ask for feedback

While some employers provide feedback along with rejection letters, not all of them do. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking politely about the reason for your rejection. Never assume that you didn’t make the cut because you were not competent enough.

5. Identify your weaknesses

One of the most common factors for an interview rejection is lack of technical knowledge. But there are a number of reasons that could have factored in your rejection. Use the feedback to address your weaknesses. It is best when this is done immediately, so that you will be more prepared for your next interview.

6. Initiate your plan ‘B’

It is never a wise decision to apply for one job. Apply for several jobs for which you meet the criteria, even when you don’t want to. Pursuing multiple decisions may work in your favour, since one job rejection may help you to master the weaknesses and prepare yourself as necessary for the upcoming ones.

7. Leave the past in the past

Consider what went wrong, assess the interview, and make the corrections to your errors. But, don’t dwell on it. Don’t try to discuss it with everyone who is willing to listen, and more importantly, don’t allow it to become a nightmare. Instead, focus on your achievements, and your dreams. This should be a source of inspiration and motivation for you.

8. Remind yourself you are not alone

Hundreds, nay thousands of people get turned down every year. It is important that you know you shouldn’t use interviews as professional validation. It does not mean that you are not professional or lack the ability to do the job. All it means is that you were not what they were looking for at that particular time.

9. Erase that frown

The best way to face your fear, which is rejection in this case, is to keep a smile on your face. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that it will be okay. Your dream job is waiting for you. All it requires is for you to search a little harder, and sometimes a little wider, but it’s already there.

Cheer up!

Source (The Jamaica Observer)